How to Get My Baby to Sleep in the Crib Instead of on Me

Oct 21

3 min read

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Quick answer: To get your baby sleeping in the crib instead of on you, start at bedtime, move the feed to the beginning of the routine, and make the change gradually, with you nearby, instead of all at once. With a plan that fits your baby, most babies are comfortable in the crib within 1 to 2 weeks.

Your baby is finally asleep on your chest after 30 minutes of bouncing. You lower them into the crib, slowly, and the moment their back touches the mattress, their eyes pop open. You did not create a bad habit, and your baby can learn to sleep in the crib.

Why does my baby only sleep on me?

Your chest is warm, it moves, it smells like you, and your heartbeat is right there. The crib is flat, still and quiet. Of course your baby prefers you.

Babies also wake briefly between sleep cycles, usually every 35 to 50 minutes during naps. If they fell asleep on you and wake up somewhere else, that change wakes them fully. That's why the transfer so often fails.

Should I start with naps or bedtime?

Start with bedtime. That's when most babies have the most sleep pressure built up. Naps usually take longer to follow, so give yourself permission to keep some contact naps for now. For a 6 month old, a routine that ends in the crib could look like this:

Time	Routine step
6:30 PM	Bath
6:40 PM	Lotion & pajamas
6:45 PM	Feed with a soft light on
6:55 PM	Book and song
7:00 PM	Into the crib, awake

Moving the feed earlier helps your baby stop connecting the bottle or breast with falling asleep.

How do I make the crib feel good?

Keep the room very dark, even for naps
Use white noise at a steady volume all night
Warm the sheet with your hand for a minute before you lay them down
Keep the room around 68 to 72°F

For safety, the crib stays bare: a fitted sheet only, no pillows, bumpers or blankets.

Why does going cold turkey backfire?

Going straight from holding your baby to sleep to leaving the room usually means a lot of crying and a very confused baby. The gentlest transitions happen gradually, with you close by, at a pace your baby can handle.

What that pace looks like depends on your baby’s age, temperament and how they fall asleep today. That’s the part I build into every family’s plan, so you’re not guessing night by night. To understand your options, read how to get your baby to sleep without cry-it-out.

How do I transfer a sleeping baby to the crib?

On days you need a transfer, wait until your baby is in deep sleep, usually 15 to 20 minutes after they fall asleep. Look for loose arms and slow, steady breathing. Lower them feet first, then bottom, then head, and keep your hand on their chest for a minute before pulling away.

Crib sleep FAQ

How long does it take for a baby to get used to the crib?

Most babies need about 1 to 2 weeks of consistent practice. The first few nights usually take the longest.

Are contact naps bad for my baby?

No. Contact naps are fine, especially while you work on bedtime first. Naps usually follow once nights are going well.

Why does my baby wake up as soon as I put them in the crib?

Usually because they aren't in deep sleep yet, or the crib feels very different from your arms. Wait 15 to 20 minutes, and practice putting them down drowsy but awake at bedtime.